Wedding Fun

I’ve known Ms. Lissahn Devance for nearly twenty years. She and I met when both our children were very young.  Our boys were in kindergarten together.  She and I had both recently moved to the Atlanta area and were trying to figure out this single mom thing.  We met at a Saturday Seminar our kids’ school was hosting.  Somehow we ended up at the same table.  She with her son and daughter, me with my little boy.  At the end of the seminar she needed a ride home. I offered to take her and the rest as they say is history.

Our kids played together. Read together and laughed together. She’d watch Saleem so I could run some errands or study and I watched her kids when she had to work late.  We were in this single mom struggle together and we stuck together for about three years.  I decided to moved back to Florida to be closer to family.  Lissahn stayed in Atlanta.  We talked regularly by phone and I would visit Atlanta whenever I could.  Our kids grew up but she and I were always on a mission to fulfill our dreams.  She received a degree in business and started her own business. I got one in education and started my teaching career.

This past weekend she and I met in Miami.  She was on business as an event planner and I just wanted to see my friend. Over the years I’ve scrolled through her website and blogs just marveling at her beautiful work at various events around the country. On this past Saturday, I got to see her work up close and it literally brought tears to my eyes. The wedding she put together was absolutely amazing! To know where she came from to seeing her doing what she loves just makes my heart happy. I am so very proud of her. I was so happy to be there to help her and to see her walking in her purpose.

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Dreams do come true…:)

No More Bad News

For many of us, when we think about posting online, we want our posts to be encouraging and positive. Life is too short to fill our timelines or blogs with a bunch of negative content. So, we find happy and positive things to post and blog about. Obviously, I share the same sentiments when I post but I also want to be honest, transparent and authentic.

After reading all of the happy, encouraging posts, have you ever thought, “is this person always this happy?” Do you wonder if negative things ever happen to them? And when these negative things happen, are they just as happy or do they struggle with finding peace and balance? Am I the only one who thinks that?

For the last few days I’ve had to deal with some not so happy, challenging situations. When I sat down to write this blog, as usual, I thought, “what positive and encouraging message can I share this week?” My second thought was, “I’m not all happy and cheerful so why don’t I just share what I’m really feeling?”

Just then I remembered the movie, The Wiz, starring Diana Ross.  Mabel King sung a song in that movie called No Bad News.  The words went something like, “don’t nobody bring me no bad news.”  That’s exactly what I was feeling as I sat down to write this. My dog has been sick for a week, took my car in to have some minor repairs and it turns out that I need a new transmission, hit my head and wound up with a concussion, due to the car issues I’ve had to cancel my Spring Break vacation and I am now faced with deciding whether to buy a new car or giving up (yet again) my dream of buying a house.

I don’t like the outcome of either choice but a choice has got to be made and soon.  So, happy this week, yeah, not so much and even though  it feels overwhelming and hard now, I can not let it get me down.  Even though I may not “happy” I am very grateful. Thinking of the things I do have and all that I have to be grateful for helps.  My dad loved B. B. King. The song The Thrill is Gone Live at Montreux was his favorite version.  I listen to this song often when I’m feeling hard pressed because it reminds me of my dad and I simply can’t be upset when I think of him.

Now, to all of those always-happy-encouraging-posting people, I think I’ve figured out the secret…just being grateful helps.  Understanding that hardship times don’t mean it’s the end helps.  Finding an encouraging post, good book, favorite song or just a plain old good attitude about stuff helps.  Good news or bad news, having peace and faith beyond understanding is the key to being and staying happy.

Standing firm…🙂

Summer Break

Summer Break

School has been out for a couple of weeks now.  Just as I do every summer, I planned a long laundry list of things I would like to get done.  I love my lists!  I make them for everything.  Mostly for helping me to not forget.  Having a busy life can prove to be quite the challenge when thoughts and ideas are constantly running through your mind.  Therefore, a pad of paper is always somewhere close to me.

The funny thing is, even with all of my lists, there are still somethings that just seem not to get done.  I had high hopes to accomplish a great deal this summer but I seemed to be focused more on having fun and enjoying my time off rather that looking at my summer list.  But, it’s all good!  I do not plan to beat myself up about the things I don’t finish.  For me, what’s most important is being healthy, enjoying my family and enjoying life.  Finding balance is always a challenge, summer break or not.

The key to this list thing is to never, ever give up.  No matter how many times you have to transfer one or two items from an old list to a new one, never give up! One of the things on my summer list that I did actually start was a summer bible study of The Armor of God series by Priscilla Shirer.  In this study I am learning that each and everyday we are all afforded the opportunity to grow and change.  For some that may be spiritually, for others it may be physically or mentally.  No matter what that growth or change may be, the only way it will happen is if we never give up.

Just like with my lists, I am fully aware that I may not be able to accomplish everything I have planned for my life in the time frame I set for myself.  However, what I am most aware of and what I believe is that all things happen in God’s timing and within his plan for my life.  Now that doesn’t mean I get to simply sit back and hope, that somehow, what I’d like to see and do with my life will just happen.  I have to be working toward my goals little by little and day by day.  Giving up will almost certainly guarantee that any hopes and dreams I have will not come to fruition.

So, let me leave you with this…enjoy your summer!  Try to make better choices in eating, drink lots of water, try to get in at least thirty minutes of exercise each day, rest, enjoy family and friends, and be happy!  Check in on your list of things to do from time to time but don’t be upset if you don’t get it all done in a day. Remember to pray, remember to smile and most of all just be you!

Loving Summer…:)