When I was in my early twenties my best friend convinced me to move from Florida to Atlanta, Georgia. She had moved to Atlanta a few years before to attend college and after graduation decided to stay. She thought Atlanta would be great for me. Best friends since childhood, we were young, had our whole lives ahead of us and as young adults, Atlanta would be just the place to begin our new adventures.
The birth of my son at nineteen had slowed down my education just a bit but I wasn’t going to give up my dream of becoming a college graduate. When I made the decision to move to Atlanta, I applied and was accepted to Georgia State University. In Atlanta, just as I’d done in Florida, I worked and went to school. Finishing my education and taking care of my son was the goal. My best friend and I had some great time but after competing one semester I had to forgo my next semester in order to find a full time job so that I could better take care of my son.
It was during that time that I found a customer service job with Time Warner. The job was good. The money did just what I needed to which meant my son and I would be okay. The managers at Time Warner purchased this book called, Who Moved My Cheese?. They gave one copy to each department head. Each person in the department was to read it and then pass it on the next person on the list. The book is not very long and I was able to get through it in a few days. After reading it, even at that young age, I understood why the company wanted us to read it.
Things in business as well as in life change and sometimes they change often. However, if we don’t have the strength of mind to change with the world around us we risk becoming stuck just like one character in the story. This book came to my mind today as I thought about my current relationship.
My love and I have always been quite different. It is one of those things we learned early on about each other. I am the one who enjoys trying new things, going to new places and reading various genres in order to expand my thinking. He is more of a “close to the vest” type guy. He is very comfortable with what he’s familiar with and doesn’t do change well.
Over the years we worked through his fear of change by slowly bringing new things into his life. When we went on trips, we’d go after he got off work (he doesn’t do well with taking time off work) and stay over just one night. Slowly we’d try different restaurants of his choice. I’m still working on that reading thing. Yet while that has worked for us for many years, it’s the one thing that is taking its toll on us today.
I never quite understood the fear of change as I’ve known it to make me stronger and better. I don’t always like change, I don’t think anyone does but I don’t run from it. It’s hard to see anyone you love be crippled by a fear of anything because you know it is hindering their progress in some area of their lives. However, what I’m learning in this season of my life is that God truly has a plan for each and everyone of us.
While we hope that life will bend our way, ultimately it’s God’s will should strive to know and do, so that we can live that abundant life he promises us in Ephesians 3:20.
My cheese is moving once again…🙂